It's just laziness

From all the sayings that friends and family tell you in a breakup situation, few can be really used. He doesn’t deserve you, he is a jerk, stop seeing him, enjoy your single life and improve you pick up techniques… when truth is that those saying hurt. In fact, I feel much more stupid for being the one who is unable to let go, even when everybody else sees “better”.
It seems that the heart is the one in command, and everything else is weaker. You can be resolute to stop talking to the bastard, be aware of all the mistakes, but on the first minute you speak to him, you just melt. Someone told me, it’s okay. That sounds like real love.
Is it really? Going for a walk after a long day of memories, I had a thought. We don’t let go because we can’t against the heart? or we don’t let go because we simply don’t want to fight? Are we still in love, or are we just lazy?
If you know the guy is a bastard, don’t appreciate you the way you should be appreciated, don’t call you, show love in front of others, but don’t assume the thing… why keep yourself in this?
I most certainly have an answer: Because it is comfortable. There is intimacy there, there is comfort coming from good memories, and there is certainly love. But somehow this combination is not enough. By enough I mean, all the time, no surprises.
If we were not lazy, we would be walking around Soho, carrying lots of bags… we would be drinking Liche Martinis and flirting in bars… or we would simply be thinking about something else then the guy.
In sum, it is laziness don’t let go, don’t get over. The revolving door relationship is a destructive behavior.
Trying to figure out all this new theory of mine, I was walking around midtown, when I met Gwen. I haven’t seen her since last Thanks Giving, but I meant to call.
She is just separating from her husband, something that for many reasons, I saw happening way before. When I said, I’m sorry for the entire situation. She said, Thanks. But I actually feel better.
There I found a truly strong woman, who always seemed to me, a polite and beautiful and refine lady.
No appreciation is enough reason to get off. Laziness is not for strong women, who know their value, Who know how fabulous they are, even without that “comfortable” relationship.